The Lost Art of Self-Reflection

06 May 2018

For most of history, people got up with the sun and went to bed with it.

Their worlds were very small, about as far as they could walk or ride a horse in a day.

They heard the birds chirp.

They were familiar with the stars.

They were comfortable with silence and had time to think.

That was then. This is now.

In our busy world, we are always surrounded by sounds, demands, pressures and obligations. Silence and solitude are difficult to find. Being comfortable with our own thoughts is seemingly impossible.

Everybody wants a piece of us.

Before television, cars, electricity, billboards and city life (not to mention email, Facebook and all the overstimulation of the digital life), it must have been easier to engage in self-reflection. At least there weren’t so many distractions.

I recently wrote about our need for holidays; we need the special ones as well as the  weekly ones some people call Sabbath. Those times give us pause to reflect on our lives.

As a lay life coach, I pose four questions to new clients to help them reflect on where they’d like to grow.

I encourage you to answer these questions for yourself. Also click the Rate Your Life link and score yourself on six life dimensions.

As you reflect, you may learn some things about yourself and embark on a journey of growth, personal development and positive change.


  1. What are 1 or 2 things I think should be on the agenda for my life right now?
  2. If I could change one thing in my life right now, what would it be?
  3. What are the obstacles that are holding me back from reaching my potential in this season of my life?
  4. When I think ahead to 3 years from now, how do I want my life to be different?

Photo by Gaetano Cessati; retrieved from




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