13 Dec 2013

by Daniel Jernejcic

Daniel was a student in one of interpersonal communication classes. He has Asperger’s Syndrome, a condition that makes it challenging for him to concentrate, remember, socialize and communicate. Daniel is very bright. But because of his disorder, he often feels like a failure. His final project was this presentation on self-esteem. Here’s to all the Daniels of the world and all of us who struggle with a healthy personal perspective.

Self-esteem refers to a person’s belief in themselves.

High self-esteem is the ideal frame of mind a person needs to be happy. Having good self-esteem gives you more energy and makes you more productive in all matters, not just involving work, but in all facets of life. Good self-esteem allows you to do things you thought were impossible.

There are many ways to raise your self-esteem.

Taking pride in your personal appearance is one way. For instance, you can work out at home or at a gym.

Another way is to take part in an activity or activities you know you’re good at.

Poor self-esteem can lead to many problems, such as depression, inactivity, or even suicidal thoughts.

Self-destructive thoughts are the killer of good self-esteem, and the first step to counteracting them is to be conscious of when they are happening. The first manifestations often come in the form of tearing yourself down—thoughts like, “you’re worthless,” or “you’re simply not good enough.”

Comedian Christopher Titus once referred to that voice as, “your inner idiot.” It’s a voice that contradicts every good thought you think of yourself.

When you find yourself thinking something good about yourself, pay attention for signs of follow-up thoughts that negatively contradict it.

It’s important to quickly counter self-destructive thoughts. One way is to immediately counter it with a positive/opposite thought. With repetition and willpower, you will begin to believe the positive thoughts and make them a reality.

Mind over matter is a legitimate answer to destructive thoughts and low self-esteem.

In addition:

  • Exercise. Working out releases endorphins and makes you feel you’ve accomplished something.
  • Dress sharply. Maintaining good personal hygiene can foster a positive attitude.
  • Smile. Making a concerted effort to smile and seek positive physical contact makes your brain produce a chemical that induces happiness, which leads to positive feelings.
  • Accept affirmation. Affirmation is receiving complements from others; it’s critical to self-worth. It’s ok to get recognition for your deeds; there is no shame in recognizing them. While it’s often better to hear it from a peer, you can also affirm yourself.

In conclusion, the higher your self-esteem, the more successful you will typically be. Recognize self-destructive thoughts as they appear and counter with positive ones. Work out, smile, give and get complements, use these tools to grow, and let your path to greatness begin.


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